In a heartfelt conversation on January 28th, Rachael Kirkconnell shared insights into her recent breakup with former Bachelor contestant Matt James. Their separation, which occurred shortly after a trip to Japan on January 16, took many by surprise, including Kirkconnell herself, who expressed feeling blindsided by the announcement. The couple, who met on the reality show, seemed like a match made in social media heaven, often sharing joyful moments from their lives together. However, behind the scenes, their relationship faced significant challenges that eventually led to their split.
What Happened After Tokyo?
The couple’s relationship took a rocky turn following their trip to Tokyo. According to Kirkconnell, Matt cited incompatibility as the main reason for their breakup. He felt uncertain about the future, stating he didn’t see himself marrying her. Kirkconnell revealed that discussions about marriage had been happening just days before their split, which left her feeling confused and hurt.
Communication Issues
Rachael also spoke about how Matt’s communication skills were lacking, which contributed to the tension in their relationship. She described moments when she felt she had to apologize more than he did in conflicts, leading to a sense of imbalance between them. This constant need for her to take the blame became a burden that weighed heavily on her.
The Discomfort of Living Apart
Despite seemingly shared experiences, Rachael and Matt never officially lived together. Kirkconnell hinted that James’ religious beliefs influenced this choice, making her realize that their unique living situation was one of several red flags. She felt that this separation created an emotional distance that ultimately drove them further apart.
A Public Announcement
The way their breakup was announced also added to the turmoil. Matt took to Instagram to share the news, which left Kirkconnell feeling disrespected. She had learned about the split through a friend while on a flight, and the nonchalant way it was made public shocked her. Feeling blindsided, she expressed that changes could have been made in their communication before everything played out in front of the public eye.
No Infidelity, Just Growth
Throughout their conversation, Kirkconnell emphasized that infidelity was not a factor in their breakup. Although she might have initially made excuses for Matt’s behavior, she now sees the split as an opportunity for growth and reflection on what she truly wants in a partner. Understanding the dynamics of their relationship has helped her realize that different readiness for commitment was a key factor in their breakup.
A Journey Ahead
As both Kirkconnell and James navigate their post-breakup lives, it’s clear that this experience has been challenging yet enlightening for her. The couple’s journey showcased the importance of communication, compatibility, and the right timing in relationships. While they may no longer be together, Rachael looks ahead with hope, understanding more about herself and what she seeks in future relationships.
